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Optimal Glans

Written by Paul B. at 26 Nov 2002 12:14:29:

As an answer to: Re: Hypersensitive Glans !!!???!!! written by Rich at 26 Nov 2002 02:07:18:

> I will try out the method that you suggested later! No doubt it WILL hurt, but I have to try and start making progress on this matter!

It seems you are not taking in the message. If it hurts, then what you are doing is too rough, too fast, and/ or not enough lubricant. The word is - slippery - like your foreskin is slippery as you roll it back and forth (in that case, the "slip" is actually inside the skin).

And your desire for "progress" is still a problem. You are perfect as it stands. It seems quite sure that the ones you copy are mostly circumcised, or have de-sensitised their penes by far too much rough usage. Particularly for those circumcised, their condition is not an advantage, but rather a limitation. But they are gluttons - they have eschewed (rejected) gentle, sensuous stimulation, but have instead convinced themselves that they must get more and more (violent) stimulation, purportedly to "enjoy" more and more sex.

Well, we see through that and beyond, to what happens afterward. We see them looking for more and more novelty, bizarre and violent forms of stimulation. When you (deliberately) desensitise yourself - both penis and mind - to the natural enjoyments of stroking, you no longer find that natural level to be "enough" and it becomes an addiction - and that's exactly what happens, and the danger you face however you have convinced yourself that you are "inadequate" as you are.

This is a very male thing. Women are particularly sensitive - at least as much as you are, yet very few (very few indeed who do not suffer from a mental disorder) pursue a desire to diminish their natural clitoral sensitivity, though there is some peer pressure now to have genital piercings, supposedly (and absurdly) to make them more aware of their genitals (but in fact, the very opposite is more likely as a result).

> I have a significant number of inhibitions regarding this and as a result cannot face going to see my local GP.

Well, GPs do have a tendency to focus on such things as heart disease and blood pressure, diabetes, contraception, infections, and few take a particular interest in sexual counselling - perhaps because there is so little demand. Why should this be so? Well, it turns out that those who do not have the inhibitions, do not often have the problem, in part because they can discuss their concerns with friends or parents or siblings. Those with the inhibitions are poor communicators both as cause and effect.

> Is this a common problem in men by the way?

The problem is then, not the normal function of the foreskin and glans, the problem is thinking it should function in some manner that is in truth not normal. It is a common problem where genital mutiulation (such as circumcision) is common - in other parts of the world, it simply would not happen because everyone would understand the glans and foreskin, and the range of sensitivity for various straightforward reasons.

> I do have some lube and will try it tonight. If it does hurt I will see what happens. Will this pain get easier to accept?

Only if you really are keen on inflicting yourself pain. Otherwise, you will focus on being gentle, slow and careful - which whether or not this is actually relevant to yourself, is what women/ girls need and expect.


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