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Written by Paul B. at 26 Nov 2002 21:21:04: Pain is pain - take the hints.
As an answer to: Re: Optimal Glans ... Are pain & pleasure really related??? written by Rich at 26 Nov 2002 17:32:47:
> I fear that you may have got my problem slightly confused. I am trying to solve the problem of not being able to touch the glans PERIOD.
I fear in turn, that you fail to see the significance of my, and other references to what is the normal experience of women, and the fact that many, perhaps most of the men you seek to imitate are circumcised - that is, already genitally injured.
> When I pull the foreskin back and touch the exposed glans, I get a very hot and sharp PAIN.
And as I said, so do most women, because doing that - touching the glans when dry, like touching the inside of the urethra, is not for what the human body is designed.
> I do not think that the connection of pain and pleasuer are closely related in this situation. If this is a form of pleasure, then I would rather do without.
No, it is pain - it is your body telling you you are doing something for which it is not intended! It's much like finding it difficult to smoke because it makes you cough - coughing is your body's way of telling you that you are damaging it.
> Being a gay man,
The point did not escape me!
> I have seen men touch their penis glans many times without even flintching, and this for me is an impossibility.
They are quite likely circumcised, thus were compelled to have an insensitive glans.
> For example, the thought of me receiving a blow job is pretty distant.
There is no reason you cannot have a blow job with your foreskin forward - as you obviously have done up to the present when masturbating. The tongue can be poked through the opening to "tease" exactly as much as pleasurable - given that it is wet and slippery with saliva.
> I am trying to masturabte with lots of lubrication, and for the first time last night I did. This was not nearly as painful as I anticipated,
That must prove something, mustn't it?
> and wonder if I continue with this gentle approach, that the problem will solve itself.
That's exactly as I said before. The gentle approach is designed for sensitive people. If you wish to emulate the in-sensitive fate of the circumcised, well, so be it. It will happen, but you may regret it.