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Written by Rood at 09 Dec 2002 07:37:56: Re: Sensitive Glans AGAIN !!!
As an answer to: Sensitive Glans AGAIN !!! written by Rich at 09 Dec 2002 01:31:51:
Surgery...in order to touch your glans? If that's what you think then you need to see a psychiatrist...as it indicates that you have a serious problem, having fixated your attention not on what you are or on what you have, but on what some kooky guy displays on a video. Now that's not normal behaviour, but then having a fetish is never normal, especially when it involves cutting. You should read the horror stories of guys who cut themselves with razors and knives. Recently one man reported on his attempt...he ended up in the hospital with corrective surgery that cost him somewhere in the amount of $10,000.00. He almost lost his genitals, penis and testicles together, as a result of his fetish. Most men are too cowardly and too conventionally minded to do it themselves, and so they go to a doctor, often one who shares their obsession, and they have him do the mutilation. It allows them to think that genital mutilation is "normal".
Now you, at 24, need to confront these issues, instead of playing with them and with us, as you have of late. I know another man, who at 50, has lived most of his life in his "closet", and this isolation has twisted his understanding of sex and of relationships to the point that he, too, mutilated himself out of shame and erotic need, facilitated by a so-called "doctor".
You are correct to worry about the reaction of the ordinary physician...they would rightly see your problem as mental and not as physical. If they are sympathetic to your "problem" (and the problem is not an overly sensitive glans) they would refer you to the specialist most likely able to treat you, and that specialist would not be a surgeon.
On the other hand, if you would learn to recognize your own part in this scenario...and how you have allowed shame and fear to paralyze your ability to develop intimate relationships with other people...you might free yourself from these obsessions all by yourself. Only it's much easier with help.
Believe me, your concerns are not with your penis, but with your mind.
>Hey all,
>Well, I guess I am paranoid thats all! Being a gay man who is exposed to lots of concerns about the penis, I hope you can understand my anxiety. I have seen many porn films, with the guys touching their glans, stroking and caressing them, and this for me is just food for thought, and fear that it is never going to be a reality. I CAN'T even pluck up the courage to get a blow job, and I'm sure you will understand that at the age of 24, having not experienced this, you will understand my concerns. The truth of the matter is that I am totally and utterly petrified that full sex is never going to happen, unless I have some kind of surgery! I can't (as you can probably imagine) even pluck up the courage to go to my doctors, for fear of shame, or being addressed with a puzzled look. Will I have to have surgery, or DO men suffer from not being at all able to touch their glans? Can anyone refer me to someone who could give some free advice over the internet, ie a penis specialist or something? I am just so worried.
>Many thanks,
>Rich - UK