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Be VERY careful...

Written by Paul B. at 19 Dec 2002 09:30:37:

As an answer to: Re: Be careful... written by Jake Booth at 18 Dec 2002 21:46:40:

Jake, however fond you may have become of this guy with the English "Mateship" thing, I think it's only fair to point out that just as you have found exactly the opposite of his doom-saying advice to be true about foreskin stretching, so you will find it - eventually - to be for almost all of the his other advice. Certainly, sometimes he gets it right, but the mental processes involved are so entirely random, that it's not something you should take a risk on at any time!

Firstly let me re-iterate that tearing of the fraenulum, is indeed the closest parallel to tearing of the woman's hymen, that you will encounter. Point by point, both are a point of sexual anatomy that has an apparently "protective" aspect, keeping an area (the glans for men, by keeping the foreskin covering most of the time, and of course the vagina in women) closed off until the onset of sexual activity, both are generally stretched to fit by gentle sexual activity, but may be torn by much rougher activity, which in both cases causes bleeding, usually brief albeit messy, self-limiting and with a degree of pain that may or may not limit the activity at the time. In both cases, further tearing may occur on subsequent occasions but in the vast majority of cases, this is less each time and natural healing occurs despite continued use (indeed continued use is probably a good idea to ensure healing occurs without re-attachment at the original point).

The main differences are that tearing of the fraenulum is somewhat less common, and that girls make much less fuss about the tearing/ bleeding/ healing process for the simple reason that they are effectively, "trained" for it by the experience of menstruation (periods) - and are generally taught to expect it.

Virtually everything you need to know about the possibility of fraenulum tearing is encapsulated in the above summary.

To your post and its replies:

> Would I be a helpless mess on the bed or something?

You cut your leg on a thorn in the garden, or a nail. Are you a helpless mess?

> Would it bleed?

Yes.

> Would my cock hang off?

Could you explain why you mean by this? At face value, this is so absurd, I suspect you are simply conspiring to "wind us up".

> Would I have to go to hospital?

Let me repeat. You cut your leg on a thorn in the garden, or a nail. Do you have to go to hospital?

> My brother got into the whole rip and tear cycle, but luckily it was only for a couple of times (his frenulum was only a little tight)

Twice, eh? So that was a problem? It seems to me, it illustrates particularly nicely the parallel with the hymen

> Basically, from what I've been told, it's very painful, it bleeds, heals up and the cycle starts again next time and can sometimes keep on doing it unless the issue is dealth with.

Again, the same parallel. Obviously with some embellishment into the bargain. Consider: How much hype would you make of this if it referred to a girl?

> If you are doing the nasty and it happens, chances are you'll be in too much pain to enjoy what you are doing.

Or indeed, may not notice at all until afterward.

> I recall reading an article in a magazine a couple of years back (I think it was in the health section of FHM or Maxim)

Reputable magazines?

> about the condition and it said about how common it is for guys with bleeding dicks to turn up in A & E on a Saturday (Saturday must be first sex night or something!)

Given that early Saturday and Sunday mornings are top times for sexual assault presentations, you would be right there!

> Regardless of what some would have you believe, Jake, it is a real issue - is it dangerous?

Yes - and rarely.

> The frenulum is not the bleeding-girly-bits issue that birds have when the first have sex (if they have'nt broken themselves prior that is) and should not bleed and certainly should not be painful.

Well, if it isn't, where's the difference? I can't see a scrap of evidence there.

> I don't mean to sound negative,

But . . .


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