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Written by Rood at 06 Jan 2003 04:40:27: Re: Phimosis
As an answer to: Re: Phimosis written by Peter B. at 03 Jan 2003 15:01:47:
Dear Peter:
The advantage of the internet is that one can admit the truth without being embarrassed...everything here is anonymous. Of course you can be embarrassed all on your own, but who is to know?Some perspective...in line with what PaulB has said. There are men who "stroke" for hours...even days...before allowing themselves to ejaculate. They so enjoy the buildup to the moment of orgasm that this extended cresendo becames almost the main event, with ejaculation as merely a release. This process is known as "edging". Next time that you masturbate...take your time, and when you get "close"...deliberately back off before you orgasm...then start over and repeat as many times as possible until you can't stand it any longer. When the day comes that you have sex...take that slow and easy, too.
Also...buy a lubricant of some sort, KY, WET, or equivalent. Most drugstores stock these things, usually near the condoms. If this is difficult...try using a skin lotion or, hey, try some vegetable oil from the kitchen. Whatever works for you. Doing it "dry" is not the way it's supposed to be, after all.
>Hello,
>Well after getting an erection i am stroking my penis say anywhere between 5 to 10 minutes and then i orgasm. unless im mistaken, i was under the impression that masturbation is meant to enjoyable not only on ejaculation.
>and to answer your second question , i havnt used lubrication when i masturbate.
>Thank you so much for your help, its quite embarassing to talk about this, so this forum does really help. i really appreciate.
>
>>Hello, Peter: The sudden realization that your foreskin cannot be retracted mirrors my experience at approximately the same age. Let me assure you that your instinctive feeling concerning the implications of circumcision as being "a bit scary" is completely valid. Circumcision will permanently limit sexual sensations.
>>That your only pleasure from masturbation comes from a few seconds during orgasm seems a bit strange, however. To comment intelligently on your experience I'd want to know (for one) how long you normally masturbate prior to orgasm. Also, have you used lubrication? I'd suggest that lube might help mimic the normal back and forth movement of the retractable foreskin. Try it if you haven't. The experience should give you a clue as to the delightfull experience of having a functional foreskin, and give you impetus for your stretching regimen. Let us know.
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>>>Hello,
>>>Im a 16 yr old who until 2 days ago did not realise i had phimosis. I didnt even know what it was. I have been doing some reading up about it and now i realise that i have a very very tight foreskin that has never been able to retract. The idea of circumcision is a bit scary and i wamt to start these stretching exercises you guys suggest. i starting masturbating not long ago, but the only pleasure i get from this is when i orgasm(in other words all i get is a few seconds of pleasure) is this normal? i mean, is masturbation only meant to feel good at the end or is the phimosis stoping me from getting longer pleasure from masturbation. Any comments would be appreciated.
>>>thank you,
>>>Peter