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Premature Ejaculation - likely NO different

Written by Paul B. at 12 Jan 2003 03:48:18:

As an answer to: Re: Circumcision and Premature Ejaculation written by Jim at 12 Jan 2003 00:59:52:

> Now, that's an unusual set of circumstances. You say you have phimosis, meaning that your glans is not touchable, but in another statement, you claim that you are super sensitive.

No, I don't think he necessarily implied that his phimosis prevented him touching his glans. It's quite possible that he can for example, retract when flaccid, but not when erect. Or indeed, that he can retract even when erect, but is just indicating that he has a tight foreskin. In either case, he is quite likely to be aware of the effects touching the glans, and it is possible that he is quite aware of the contribution of the foreskin to that sensation as it is retracted and during intercourse, all the more so as it is tight.

> Ordinarily, men who report that sensitivity is a problem for them tell us that it is the touching of it which bothers them.

Though it appears to be mostly connected with the desire to handle their glans "like a circumcised man can", not for intercourse where the touch is lubricated anyway, but for a particular sort of masturbation and ... other activities.

> In fact, some of the more enthusiastic promoters of foreskin removal claim that having the glans covered, as you say yours is, would make the glans barely sensitive enough to achieve orgasm.

I was considering that possibility whilst composing my previous reply. If indeed he has an entirely non-retractile foreskin, then the sensation may already be muted to virtually the same degree as one would expect following circumcision, and indeed (except for the painful sensitivity due to permanent exposure in the short term following circumcision) his situation may be little different than if circumcised - in which case what a disappointment it would be to undergo the mutilation and find intercourse no "better"!

> That makes your situation most interesting. Am I interpreting your message correctly?

We would certainly love to hear.

> Premature ejaculation is normally caused by anxiety. Since you claim that you are new at sexual activities, it is most likely caused by the newness of the event and the anticipation of what is coming.

Precisely.

> Give it some time.

And - take it easy! Don't sweat it! Don't go at it like a bull at a gate in the first place. Except for your obvious excitement, intercourse, and particularly vigorous thrusting, are not particularly appreciated by women anyway (except of course - in porn movies!), they would much prefer you to take it easy and give them plenty of attention, hugging, kissing and stroking (and that including the foreskin of the clitoris, rather than the clitoris itself).

In fact, given youth, there is no harm in adopting the strategy: "Oh wow, it's just too much, I just can't help coming", and to simply keep on going for "seconds". As long as you can overcome the natural tendency to lose interest immediately after orgasm, but continue to focus on pleasuring your partner, you should indeed be able to regain your erection and keep going, longer this time.

Above all, discuss it with her - because it is her satisfaction you are seeking, are you not? If it isn't, we really can't help you!


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