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Re: Mama deciding

Written by Rood at 24 Jan 2003 02:37:12:

As an answer to: Mama deciding written by erika at 23 Jan 2003 02:09:05:

Dear "Mama": I have it on good authority that the testical descended on its own, conveniently, the night before the op, so that neither procedure had to be done.

Now you should obtain a copy of Kristen O'Hara's book: Sex As Nature Intended It, c 2001 and discover how lucky you are to have an intact husband, AND an intact son. And if you didn't know, the foreskin of a child often doesn't retract or separate from the glans until the child is a teenager. Your husband experienced pain because his doctor forced the foreskin back, before it was ready. Don't do that to your son...encourage him to "use" it so that he can facilitate its use and gradual separation. And leave the whole process up to him. It's his foreskin, after all, not yours.

>My son is 14 months old and is undergoing orchidopexy tomorrow (an
>undescended testes). The urologist looked at his foreskin and said
>it looked tighter than the susual. It is true that my son pees to
>one side and we can't even open the skin the slightest bit. He wants
>to perform curcumcision at the same time.
>My husband is German and not circumcised. However, he also had a
>tight foreskin growing up and recalls painful stretching done to him
>by his pediatrician at the time. They dont do those things in
>America. I am Jewish but not practicing.
>After MUCH MUCH heart wrenching thinking about it, I have come up
>with the following reasons for having the surgery done tomorrow:
>1. I'm Jewish. So is my son.
>2. I'm American. So Is my son.
>3. I frankly like the circumcized penis more.
>4.My whole family is not at all clean freaks, and we often sail for
>long periods of time with little fresh water.
>5.There are signs of phimosis, although that could go away.
>6. My husband also had signs of phimosis
>7. My uroligist is excellent and well respected.
>8. He is undergoing anestesia anyhow.
>9.I would worry for the next years whether or not my son has
>phimosis, constantly probing and checking his penis, which I don't
>want to do.
>10. I don't like the idea of waiting and seeing what happens. I
>realize that I therefore make a decision for my son. I am sorry for
>that but have decided to feel OK with making that decision for him.
>11. I already tried it the "natural" way; fate pushed this option in
>my path and I am now going for it.
>12. I researched the pros and cons VERY much, on internet with local
>and international phone calls, discussions with my husband.
>13. Dr. Lattimer is a very skilled doctor and will give a good
>circumcision.
>14. Grandma and Grandpa are coming tomorrow to support me.
>15. I Love my son and only want what is best for him.
>Any positive encouragement is welcome; all you circ-haters please
>don't reply with negatives as I'm afraid I just couldn't take it
>right now.
>Thanks out there,
>mama deciding


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