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Re: Rood...

Written by Rood at 28 Jan 2003 03:09:42:

As an answer to: Rood... written by AJ at 27 Jan 2003 22:26:00:

I seldom respond to your posts, AJ, finding it somewhat of a waste of time and energy, but on the subject of "shyness" and "shame", an answer might just possibly have some value. I don't know, though, having tried before. It's the point that I have been attempting to make with you since first becoming aware of our 'somewhat' similar histories. Unfortunately you have always seemed too self-absorbed and defensive to listen. Let me try again.

I allowed myself to be genitally mutilated, to the extent that I was mutilated, because I was too shamed to seek alternative solutions to the 'problem' of a rather tight foreskin. I was too embarrassed to question the recommendations for circumcision confidently stated by the several doctors whom I consulted, too unaware of my own body's anatomy, too bereft of imagination to understand what a terrible mistake I was about to make. That my doctors did not make it easy for me by offering other solutions is beside the point. It is my eternal shame to have allowed them to mutilate me out of some deep and dark 'need'. On the other hand, it has been my eternal salvation to have understood the consequences of being shame-based at the very moment the results of my circumcision were revealed to me. And that was somewhat of a revelation, late though it was for my genital integrity.

The process of overcoming the embarrassment and shame of being human has taken me a lifetime of conscious effort, such were the constrictions placed on my inner life from the moment of birth. The journey has been liberating, however. It has made me a whole person, confident and free.

When some months ago you attempted to discredit and embarrass me by posting the link to the Yahoo profile with my nude photograph, you only revealed your own shame. You see, I overcame that limitation decades ago. If you hadn't been so hard-headed, I might have helped you through the process, too. Here you are, still mired in the "embarrassment" of stripping before a doctor.

Your questions only reveal how far you have to go to free yourself from your own acquired limitations. If my experience might be of any instructive value...I'm always ready to assist. Just say the word.


>>You are right to feel shy about seeing a doctor about something as simple to correct as a tight foreskin. Doctors, you see, rarely know anything about it.
>What an outrageously bizarre conclusion you have made. Doctors (real doctors - not the internet ones) know a lot more on this subject than you would like others to think.
>>Their first and usually only impulse is to cut the problem away with a sharp knife.
>What are you basing this on?
>>Believe me, as I overcame my shyness and have regretted it ever since. Follow Jim's instructions and you will be fine.
>You overcame shyness? Dude, you are a naturist. Naked in public. Naked in a doctors office. What's difference?
>All the best.


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