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Written by Rood at 05 Feb 2003 01:05:15: Re: Quotation from Yahoo Groups: Therapeutic Counseling
As an answer to: Quotation from Yahoo Groups written by Jim at 04 Feb 2003 19:58:54:
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>"When I was first learning about circumcision and beginning to
>understand that it was the cause for what I was told were either
>perfectly normal physical variations or my own pychological issues I
>wasn't prepared for the powerful emotions I began to feel. I am still
>pissed as hell about it. However I hope as I continue through the
>restoration process I will be able to forgive and move on.
>"I have come accross so many internet sex advice pages where the guy
>complains of having to work way to hard to ejaculate during intercourse
>and time again they, the doctor, professional-whatever always responds
>with 'You need to talk to talk with sex therapist...'"
If this fellow posted to either PROCIRC or Circlist, he'd be booted in a minute. Only the most cloyingly positive messages are allowed on those sites. If you speak privately with a member of one of those groups about their own experience they will admit to reservations about the efficacy of circumcision. Their obsessive fascination with the procedure keeps them in thrall, however, and they don't dare buck the accepted 'line' for fear of losing face.
As for the rage which adult men display after discovering what has happened to them, I believe that for their psychic health they would be advised to seek counseling, especially now that the truth is known about what has been lost. Recently a fellow in England took the advice of his doctor to be circumcised for a tight foreskin, but when he later realized what had been lost, he almost went out of his mind. Now on drugs to control his depression, he's about to begin restoration. It's the rare individual who can work through the intense feelings of loss, rage, and pain on his own.