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Presumption!

Written by Paul B. at 08 Feb 2003 22:56:08:

As an answer to: Re: Odd presumption! written by Boby at 08 Feb 2003 22:05:09:

> There are women who have kids and you can never tell, there are other women who have lost weight and you can't tell if they were ever different. Anyway, those examples are too general.

No, you've picked it quite well there. The important details are that the elasticity of the skin varies from person to person and that it depends on the amount of weight loss - if the weight loss is modest, then some people (noting particularly in this example women and breasts) "spring" back well, but some don't. If the weight loss is considerable, then there are very few that don't sag.

> I was talking about my experience, about a very specific piece of skin.

It appears quite clear from your description, that you haven't actually tried stretching as a procedure, to date. Your description is referenced to the amount of natural stretching that is part of intercourse. Let's face it, that is not exactly an everyday or persistent stretching, in fact the actual time for which it is stretched is trivial - fractions of a second as you thrust.

The concept of stretching "exercises" is that you do it well beyond the limits of "normal function", because you must do it beyond "normal function" to elicit an alteration. Your body is designed to "keep its shape" within normal function, and will not change substantially.

For the purpose of stretching the fraenulum, my current impression is that the best "exercise" is to pull the bottom of the foreskin - the part to which the fraenulum attaches, forward firmly, to the margin of what you call pain, and to do this for some minutes at a time, a few times a day. It is rather convenient that this manipulation can be performed simply with a hand down the pants, relatively discreetly.

Now, if you choose to view this as an easy thing to do, then it will progressively have its effect, to stretch the fraenulum so much that it will never again be uncomfortable during intercourse. You will need to continue it for a month or two beyond achieving that degree of looseness, so it does "set" and become permanent.

If however, you plan to "give it a try" and set a date - March or such, by which it must have "worked", then you have already presumed to define "failure" of the method. If that's what you want to do, then do us a favour, and confess that you aren't going to do it properly because you aren't motivated, you reject the concept that skin can be stretched deliberately, and forget the whole thing. We don't want or need another "AJ"!

> Unlike masturbation during sex there is no control over the foreskin as it slides farther back pulling more on the frenulum.

Only if your version of intercourse is "uncontrolled". I don't buy that - smart people vary what they do during sex in order to maximise the pleasure, and if your foreskin is being pulled back forcibly, it suggests that firstly, you are not using a condom (for whatever reason - that is another matter) and secondly that the lady is not lubricating fully - which means she is probably experiencing some discomfort as well.


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