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Written by Paul B. at 13 Feb 2003 12:36:05: Something more
As an answer to: Re: Something else written by Steve at 12 Feb 2003 14:27:31:
> I'm 18 and the preputial orifice is just over 1.5cm in diameter when back as far as it goes before it gets painful.
Well, better than nothing!
Essentially, you have two problems; a tight foreskin opening, and an adhesion.
> Anyways, I tried the balloon test and it's stuck on the left side near the top. It starts from near the eye as a thin line and expands down about 2 centimetres and branches outwards about half that.
Options on this - about three. A competent doctor could use some anaesthetic (EmlaŽ) cream to pull the adhesion loose with minimal discomfort. Problem regarding competent doctors is - many, particularly in America and Britain, are not and for various reasons not really too difficult to figure. When you start talking about your sexual apparatus, many people become uncomfortable with "handling" it, both in the physical sense, and the matter of dealing with sexuality - because a lot of people are really uncomfortable with their sexuality, and that even includes doctors.
Many therefore shy away from actually fixing problems in favour of such things as referral to a surgeon, and surgeons tend to avoid actually fixing problems, by performing circumcisions with the implied logic that if you remove everything you can "do without" (notwithstanding the damage to sexual function), then you really do "fix" everything. In past centuries, that was a really popular approach to women's sexual problems as well!
Sorry if that is a bit of a ramble, but it's just a warning that if you see a doctor about this sort of problem, you have to be extremely sure of what you want done.
Rather more practically, you can detach the adhesion yourself, and there are two approaches; the "quick and dirty" which is what the doctor uses - just pull the whole adhesion loose - it will hurt but if you get it right the first time, that's only going to happen once; or the "bit-by-bit" approach where you just tug at it again and again, from time to time and it releases bit by bit until it "pops" loose at last.
> I'll keep doing the balloon thing to see if that helps. Are there any creams available that you know of that can help?
And doing the "balloon" trick is a good option on the "bit by bit" approach.
Now are you asking about the creams to fix the adhesion, or the tight foreskin (opening)? Apart from EmlaŽ, used to pull it loose, there isn't much that will help the adhesion. As to the tight foreskin, betamethasone cream, or rather ointment, as I have detailed how to apply previously, will assist the process, but is not strictly necessary. A quick quote from elsewhere:
You need to stretch it, and what you need to understand with complete clarity, is that you can stretch it to any degree. The requirements for stretching are:
Persistence - it will take weeks, perhaps months overall. But there really isn't a hurry in this.
Devotion - you need to spend a bit of time each (and preferably every) day stretching - a few minutes, a few times a day. At least do a little stretching exercise each time you pee (when you most likely have an erection anyway), plus in the shower, and of course, as part of masturbating.
Method - pulling it back over an erection is OK, pulling it forward actually helps a bit too, particularly pulling the underneath part forward as the fraenulum beneath the pee-hole may be tight. Pulling the sides of the tight part, apart by gripping opposite sides with thumb and forefinger of each hand, is good and best of all is when you can get a (little) finger-tip of each hand inside the tight part, together, and then pull them apart.
Caution - don't make it hurt - that isn't necessary. Hold it firmly so that you can feel a firm stretch, and that is enough. Stretching it longer and more often is more important than harder.
Do read up on the stretching matter here. Note particularly Jake Booth. There are a lot of petty arguments here, and unhelpful people saying stretching doesn't work or "stretching doesn't work in all cases", but - you are pretty unlikely to learn to do things properly from losers, so it makes sense to consider them only as examples not to follow.