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Some advice needed

Written by Craig at 26 Mar 2003 20:02:39:

I am a 20 year old male who recently had to have a physical as part of applying for a 911 dispatcher's job. Luckily I've been healthy growing up and I've avoided doctor's visits and none of the schools I went to did showers after PE so no one really knows that I am what is called intersexed. I am a boy but with what the doctor told my parents were ambiguous genitals.

I have a divided scrotum and a very small penis, a little less than 2" soft and just over three" when I'm stiff. My pee place is in some skin folds where my scrotum ends. I know I can't father children and have normal sex because my penis curves back between my legs when I'm stiff.

Before you feel sorry for me, I'm really happy that my parents told the doctors that they didn't want an operation to change me to look one way or the other. I'm happy the way I am, and besides I'm gay and my b/f likes me the way I am. If you're wondering, sex feels great.

At my physical, the doctor freaked at first and then got on with things. He tried to skin back my foreskin, but he couldn't because it has a very small hole, about 1/8 inch. It hurts to try and push it back. None of this causes me any problem but the doctor told me that he believes that I should be circumcised because I can't keep myself clean.

I don't want to do this cause I don't know what the head looks like under the skin, if it's normal looking and I never have a problem, but he's kind of scared me. I want to leave things alone. The private intersex message board doesn't know what to do in these cases, although they all say no. It seems like some doctors write here and maybe they have some advice? I don't think I could stand the head out.


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