[ ARC forum 2 ]
Written by Rood at 27 Mar 2003 05:42:48: Re: Some advice needed
As an answer to: Some advice needed written by Craig at 26 Mar 2003 20:02:39:
Dear Craig:
First off, I think that we should inform the members of this board that your situation is not all that unusual. One in every 2,000 people are classified as being intersexual at birth. It's only that the subject is concealed and seldom discussed that so many of us display ignorance.
As you are happy with things the way they are...you might well disregard the doctor's advice for circumcision. The only thing that bothers me a bit is that you don't have the flushing action of urine to clean beneath your foreskin. There is at least one study with which I'm familiar (from India) which suggests that penile cancer rates are slightly higher in unretractable men who seldom wash beneath the foreskin. At the very least you might wish to flush occasionally beneath your foreskin with clear water and a syringe.Have doctors ever examined the possibility of extending the urethra through the shaft? As the preputial orifice is only 1/8" you might consider stretching the opening to permit retraction. Intriguing possibilities might reveal themselves, and, if they don't, the foreskin will still cover the head of your penis. It would only become easier to clean.
I'm not familiar with the private intersex message board, but you might investigate http://www.measurection.com. It's a forum for men with smaller than usual "equipment". A friend said that at least one other intersex person has posted there in the past few months (from the UK). They are a very supportive group, and its membership are sensitive to the needs of others. They experimented with a circumcision forum for a few months, but I believe that it has been discarded. At least the original moderator is no longer active. Just be aware that in every group you will find individuals who eroticize circumcision. Measurection was no exception.
>I am a 20 year old male who recently had to have a physical as part of applying for a 911 dispatcher's job. Luckily I've been healthy growing up and I've avoided doctor's visits and none of the schools I went to did showers after PE so no one really knows that I am what is called intersexed. I am a boy but with what the doctor told my parents were ambiguous genitals.
>I have a divided scrotum and a very small penis, a little less than 2" soft and just over three" when I'm stiff. My pee place is in some skin folds where my scrotum ends. I know I can't father children and have normal sex because my penis curves back between my legs when I'm stiff.
>Before you feel sorry for me, I'm really happy that my parents told the doctors that they didn't want an operation to change me to look one way or the other. I'm happy the way I am, and besides I'm gay and my b/f likes me the way I am. If you're wondering, sex feels great.
>At my physical, the doctor freaked at first and then got on with things. He tried to skin back my foreskin, but he couldn't because it has a very small hole, about 1/8 inch. It hurts to try and push it back. None of this causes me any problem but the doctor told me that he believes that I should be circumcised because I can't keep myself clean.
>I don't want to do this cause I don't know what the head looks like under the skin, if it's normal looking and I never have a problem, but he's kind of scared me. I want to leave things alone. The private intersex message board doesn't know what to do in these cases, although they all say no. It seems like some doctors write here and maybe they have some advice? I don't think I could stand the head out.