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Written by Paul B. at 15 Jul 2003 12:37:15: Very sensitive indeed
As an answer to: Re: very sensitive during sex written by 29/F at 15 Jul 2003 07:29:45:
> For instance, once I orgasm - I can't stand to have my clitoris touched for a minute or so. It's just too sensitive. Give it a little time- then see what what happens.
I'm sure you have answered very accurately for most of us - male or female (and why should they be different anyway?)
Let me summarise. For most people, there is a point during orgasm, before which they quite demand that stroking continue to fully experience the orgasm, and after which it is simply unpleasant to be stroked. Now for men, this point is I would propose, usually toward the end of ejaculation - and is not necessarily "sharp", which is to say, that one tends to simply slow the stroking down and stop.
The complication in intercourse, is of course that the other person has an "agenda" also, and unless that other person is entirely focussed on you (unlikely), they will not always "permit" you to "slow down". This more rapidly leads to stroking becoming quite unpleasant. If however, the fellow is "controlling the action", he generally will simply thrust in and stay still at this point (and lose the erection).
And obviously the "stopping point" will depend on the person, the occasion, previous stimulation, lubrication and other things, so that there is no "normal" as such. If it happens that you can't bear stroking as soon as ejaculation (orgasm) starts - then that is your reality just as much as is feeling the need to go on to further orgasms. Don't worry about it, learn to accept it, but don't presume either, that it won't be quite different another time - it may surprise you.