PRE-MARITAL PARAPHIMOSIS
forum letter 10
I am a 26 year old male with an uncorected phimsosis since adolesence.
I have a large overhang which I am not bothered about but I am also
unable to retract my foreskin. I have never experienced any real problems
with urination (apart from the requirement of a few extra shakes) so
have never done anything about it. However I recently awoke with a
fully retracted trapped foreskin (the first ever)(must have been a
good dream) and after about 10 mins of panic managed to pull it back
over by squeezing the blood out of the glans.
I never knew that I was different and am now developing quite a complex.
I am a virgin for religious reason however I am due to be married next
month and I am now quite concerned that I will not be able to have
sex. I have previously tried to put a condom on with my penis hard,
and of course the foreskin non retracted and it just slips off. I have
tried to stretch the opening of my foreskin by inserting progresively
large objects but it doesnt seem to be working and in any case I am
concerned about the pressure that I seem to be exerting on the vain
that goes right to the top of my foreskin. I have no visible opening
but can get it to about 1.5cm when stretched. I think I am looking
at surgery but do not really want to be fully circumcised also I do
not want to visit my family GP are you aware of any clinics in the
U.K where I can get the surgery I need.
forum letter 18
Written by Dean on 08. August 1999 at 03:27:17:
In Reply to: Phimosis ? 30. July 1999
I would agree mostly with Robin- I don't think you should try to
"correct" this before marriage in less than a month. Frankly, I doubt
if you will have very much difficulty having intercourse- especially
if you utilize a good personal lubricant like Astroglide. You should
let her be a part of the time when you are solving the issue. I cant
understand why a condom would slip off even if you do not retract before
putting it on. if you leave some room at the end for some movement-
it would seem it should stay on. I did not have paraphimosis but had
a very tight foreskin due to frenulum breve - I did not have that corrected
until I was about your age- then just the frenulum was trimmed away
from the glans. I have found that the best way for me to stretch is
to slowly retract while hard- over the years I have been able to get
mine all the way back along the shaft with no problem. If those without
a foreskin can stretch enough to generate a simblance of one - those
of us fortunate enough to have one should be able to stretch over time
if carful- even if surgical intervention short of a full circ- you
still need to keep it pliable. I for one applaud you for wanting to
retain one- I have found much joy in having it.
good luck
|