Written by Tina at 30 Aug 2001 Forum2

I met a wonderful guy 3 years ago but sadly we split up 6 months ago & probably it had someting to do with his problem & the result of being 'cured' or made to feel a man again.

When we 1st went to bed he wouldn't let me masturbate him because he 'had a problem' in that his foreskin wouldn't retract. He had difficulty reaching orgasm although after 3 weeks he did but only after lots of rapid thrusts but with no deep penetration.When with his ex-wife before they were married he had experienced bleeding so was frightened to get over excited.

He was then 36 when we met, had only slept with his ex-wife with whom he'd had sex from 17, but he had 2 kids from the marriage.I told him it was no big deal & made him promise to see his GP whilst I was away in the States for a week. He did see the GP & after 6 months got a call to go to the local hospital.

I went with him & he had a general anaesthetic, was in surgery about an hour & we went home a couple of hours later, all they did was separate the bit that was attached & put in 2 stitches. After about 5 weeks he'd healed & could get the foreskin to retract but it was still tight to get back & we had to use lube to help ease it back. It never got so it would just retract by itself. It always needed assistance & was still tight round the glans.

All was well until after about 9 months he seemed to mentally change - he started flirting with women, grew in confidence & eventually he found someone else. He is now not the guy I knew or loved - he acts like he's god's gift to women, he's had his ear pierced (which he couldn't bear the thought of before), changed his lifestyle completely & acts like he's 20 something again.

Good luck to him I suppose in trying to catch up on all those lost years. Would he have stuck with his ex-wife from 17 if he wasn't so embarrassed & she lived with it. I couldn't live with it & tried to support & help but in the end feel cheated. I fixed his sex life & he walked away with a big grin.

Just a message to the guys & their partners to really talk through how it might change things. It did change our sex life marvellously but I didn't bargain for the change it would bring about in him & he didn't either.