This site discusses phimosis in its specific forms of phimotic ring, frenulum breve, adhesions or skinbridges. During erection these conditions inhibit the relationship between foreskin and glans. This functionally restricts the erection, and thus has an effect on the sexuality. With our culture's attitudes on health care, it would be appropriate to encourage early prevention.

Jan 2021 : Please read the new summary.

PARTNER UNAWARE

Dear Robin,

I just wanted to write to you and thank you for this
wonderful website. The amount of information you've
collected is awesome, and I especially appreciate the
respectful attitude with which you approach the late
initiate.

My partner has a non-retracting foreskin and he has been
unaware of this being abnormal until we started getting
intimate. Understandably, he has avoided intimate
relationships with women so it's a miracle we ever got that
far. I was extremely relieved to realise his fear of
intimacy might be related to a purely anatomical problem.
He still has difficulty taking this news in, and is
probably unaware of the psychological knock-on effects the
condition must have had on him over the years - we're both
over forty.

It's just so great to have the support of such websites, I
honestly don't know what I'd have done otherwise. I wasn't
aware of other treatments than circumcision but since my
partner was strongly opposed to that, I decided to find out
about alternatives, and in the course of that came across
this site. I still don't know what will ultimately become
of him and me but at least this has helped us out of what
otherwise might have become an impasse and hopefully will
lead to him being able to find sexual fulfillment finally.

Thank you so much.
x

P.S. If you want to, you may use my mail or its elements
for your site but plese don't use my real name. x.

Dear x,

thanks a lot for your letter,

I was over 40 when I discovered my own condition. This may explain
why I am so very respectful to the Late Initiate -

Its a crazy experience - these modern initiations are far more
bizarre than a few weeks around puberty - alone in the woods - then a
whipping - maybe a little trot across the burning coals - and then a
sharp flint stone applied appropriately.

You need to accurately diagnose this "non-retracting foreskin" - in
order to work out the specific treatment if you want to avoid circumcision.

Remember most doctors get no training on this subject and mostly
diagnose phimosis without attempting to be more specific or
recommending any specific treatment.

Write and tell us how things develop

All good wishes
Robin