OF RELEASING ADHESIONS
Extracts from Conversations with the Mother of
Two Intact Sons.
Releasing the adhesions by pulling *forward* helps the overall elasticity
of the foreskin, ... manipulation in this way is nature's way of providing
the safest (and most pleasurable) way of separating the foreskin from
The male discovers his first erections, as an infant. (something
that astounded me the first time I saw my baby with one at about 9
These infant erections are not necessarily in conjunction with a
full bladder. There have been times where they have JUST voided their
bladder and voila! a few minutes later...an erection. Nothing about
their foreskin has ever impeded their ability to get an erection.
My understanding is that it is the *forward* pulling of the foreskin
that aids in the natural separation of foreskin from the glans. Releasing
the adhesions by pulling *forward* helps the overall elasticity of
the foreskin, it does not change the length of the foreskin.
My pediatrician had told me that pulling the foreskin forward gently
during diapering, and/or alternating that with taking the foreskin
between thumb and finger and "rolling it" back an forth (like
if you had a pencil and were rolling it between your fingers) and also
gently pulling the foreskin forward in a sort of very gentle milking
action, would help in the natural separation. Once the boys discovered
this themselves, self manipulation would do the trick. Masturbation
or manipulation in this way is nature's way of providing the safest
(and most pleasurable) way of separating the foreskin from the glans.
So...slapping the hands away is a detriment. That is why there is nothing
"evil" about masturbation. It's natural. It feels good.
If memory serves, it was at about 7 - 9 months when either of my
sons actually would consciously "handle" their penises. During
toddler stages, both of my boys would gleefully say, "Hey Mommy!
Lookit what I kin do!" and I'd look and they'd pull their foreskins
practically to their knees! [that's what it looked like anyway] While
I would wince thinking at first, "Gads! Doesn't that hurt??",
their looks of sheer pleasure assured me otherwise.
During bathing, they were instructed to pull back "only as
far as it would go". This was also done by me while diapering.
At first, that meant nothing really happened at all. Meaning that the
glans was never even seen. Slowly...that changes and the foreskin widens
and you start to see the glans crown. As soon as you start teaching
the child to wash himself, you can teach him to wash himself "down
there" by just saying, "Ok...gently pull the skin back, wash,
rinse. OK! You're done!"
Then one day, while they are retracting as they've always done,
the glans seems to "pop" out. This happened when I was still
supervising their bathing so I saw it happen. No pain was experienced.
I've asked to check to see if they can "make the head come
out all the way". So...they show me. Sometimes I ask after noticing
that they are erect. In either case, with both boys, the foreskin glides
freely and easily over the glans. I do notice on my 8 year old, that
the foreskin isn't *completely* off the "edge/rim" of the
glans. That is to say, that in most areas around the rim/edge of the
glans, the foreskin is completely off the glans. A small portion is
still "stuck" on the glans. I have told him, "Ok...see
this part here? It's not completely off like it is on this side. You
need to help it to come off very carefully by pulling on it a little
bit...but always gently. Never do it if it hurts. Also...continue to
pull forward to help it that way, too." He's fine with the instructions...and
I have seen progress.
They most often obtain erections by manipulation of the foreskin
only...but not always. Sometimes they stroke the shaft; sometimes they
only tug/twirl their foreskins. Once they are erect, the foreskin still
glides freely over the glans...fully exposing the glans. Nature provided
pleasure during such manipulation as a *natural* avenue to aid in the
separation of the foreskin from the glans.
Little boys, erections and self manipulation is NORMAL, NATURAL