The concept that an anatomical deficiency in the erection can influence the sexuality appears to contradict every advance in understanding which our culture has made over the last century. - Psychological research has concentrated on parental and environmental phenomenon, and the urological disciplines do not include sexual behaviour. Scientific research has overlooked this area of human sexuality.

Intimate Relations

A man`s intimacy with his own body, reflects in any and every intimate relationship.

A man's ability to develop a healthy intimate relationship with the opposite sex is based to a large extent on his intimate relationship with his own body. If an individual avoids the discomfort or difficulty associated with his essential physical manhood, his experience of what defines him as man is mixed with avoidance, how can he develop a realistic sense of being a man? This inevitably generates an element of nervousness in any intimate contact.

If the man believes that "I am normal" it is a perfectly logical consequence for him to project the problem on his parents, or his girlfriends.

(Again I realise many people may be anxious or nervous about sex for many other complicated psychological reasons; here we are discussing the functionality of the erection when it is impaired, a simple anatomical fact of life which has been overlooked and a number of fully unnecessary extra problems which could have been easily prevented).

The penis being touched by another person is an area which will often cause problems. If a fear of touching has developed through other pre-puberty experiences (e.g. mother never touching - mother touching too much) then the condition will confirm this fear.

Intimate relationships will be more successful with women who are not interested in touching or playing with the man`s penis. (One young man who was aware of painful frenulum without realising there was a cure, adapted his behaviour by simply telling girl friends not to touch him there).

As a way of gaining integrity in one`s image of self and the world; a fair number of those with such inhibitng conditions believe they are never meant to marry or have intercourse. The feeling of not wanting sex before marriage or even never being meant to have sex is frequently expressed. Mutual love and trust are especially important pre-requisites in order to be relaxed in intimate contact. Even when emotional trust is available, sex would tend to be at some sort of distance, for example masturbation and voyeurism.
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