GIRLFRIEND SUFFERS TOO

Hi Robin,
reading your German version of the phimose I just want to consult you: My bofriend (28) suffers from it - and me too. It is not too often, but every third time he can't come because of it. And the use of condoms is difficult, too.

He didn't have a proper girlfriend yet, so he is not used to regular sex anyway. I even had contact to a few men who were circumcised doing "research" over the net about this problem I am so devastated that it gets worse with sexual contact! So from now on it must become more painful...

But he absolutely denies to get an operation. He is absolutely anxious. I am quite devastated because I feel so helpless. I really love him, and our emotional and rational understanding is phenomenal. As we are only together for a few months our sex life is not much developped yet, and I have a health problem too (the Crohn's disease with peri-anal complications). So I don't want to overcharge him. But after a certain time we have to face the problem. What is your recommendation?
Thanks a lot for your answer.
Yours

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This is very tricky if he doesn«t want to have an operation ...

use your love and your communication to get through the problems ... extreme anxiety ... what can I suggest ... it IS anxiety for the unknown and a bit of education may cure this ... maybe he imagines that a full circumcision is the only cure ... mostly a partial circumcision or even a dorsal slit will suffice ... but are you sure it is phimosis, it could be frenulum breve - please check this out

please could you read the english
www.male-initiation.net
where you will find a summary of the conditions

you could also read
https://www.male-initiation.net/phimosis_treatment.html
get about half way down the page and then follow links for dorsal slit and partial circumcision - if you educate yourself it would be easier to educate him.

For extreme anxiety, I would consider a loving relationship better than any psychologist ...

sorry I have no potted answer
Good Luck
Robin