The concept that an anatomical deficiency in the erection can influence the sexuality appears to contradict every advance in understanding which our culture has made over the last century. - Psychological research has concentrated on parental and environmental phenomenon, and the urological disciplines do not include sexual behaviour. Scientific research has overlooked this area of human sexuality.

People Avoid Pain

The conditions are described as causing pain and difficulty.
People avoid pain and difficulty.

Medically speaking, circumcision is indicated when retraction of the foreskin causes difficulty or pain. With many degrees of different conditions retraction can involve uncomfortable or painful experiences sometimes at the beginning of sexual activity, sometimes during it and sometimes for a period of time afterwards.

When sexual pleasure is consciously associated with pain or difficulty, then we might expect frustration or even masochistic tendencies to be encouraged for a period of time (usually at the beginning of puberty). However, when pain or difficulty is avoided this can lead to far greater problems.

It is normally considered common sense and healthy for people to avoid pain and difficulty. If one has a bad shoulder one avoids moving it, one is limited and confined, but then it does not hurt. With time and rest some pains will heal, others will worsen. An interesting comparison is people with angst for dentists who will so successfully develop the habit of eating on one side of their mouth that for a while they successfully forget the toothache.

The point is that it is not because a boy is stupid or in some way psychosexually unbalanced, but like everyone does with everything else, a boy avoids sensations which are painful and difficult. In playing with his erection a boy learns that his foreskin is unmovable, in fact then, in some way untouchable.

Often he does not realise that he's avoiding anything. How aware or unaware a man is, is influenced by many aspects of his life and general sexual education, but to a large extent it is the nature of the anatomical condition itself and the consequent type and degree of pain which determines his response.

At the same time as avoiding pain one suppresses awareness. One avoids even thinking about any area which one is avoiding. Factors like worry can make pain worse, but someone who is successful in distancing themselves from pain also subdues their anatomical awareness. Avoiding pain or difficulty generates an apprehensiveness, fear or anxiety and this always hinders open minded observation and reasoning - thus confirming the blind spot - an area which is unknowable and unthinkable.

This is all understandable and sufferers should feel no extra embarrassment about the possibility of them in some way being stupid for not noticing or reacting to their condition earlier or later than anyone else.
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