The concept that an anatomical deficiency in the erection can influence the sexuality appears to contradict every advance in understanding which our culture has made over the last century. - Psychological research has concentrated on parental and environmental phenomenon, and the urological disciplines do not include sexual behaviour. Scientific research has overlooked this area of human sexuality.

The Passage is Completed

When eventually the great day of awakening dawns, this often entails first being rather flabbergasted, shocked, inevitably the question "Am I alone?" and then the cry "Why was this not treated in childhood - Why did no-one tell me?!"

You probably feel fooled and looking rather stupid. Yes its embarrassing - you are looked at with disbelief by everyone you know, (you didn`t dare tell anyone? - I`m not surprised!) Against the weight of accepted opinion it may often appear less painful to "repress and survive".

Its important to get your brain in gear: - no disturbance need ultimately have bad effects, - it was an experience - life`s full of them and good or bad they can be enriching. In practice the first step in turning any problem into an enriching experience is an awareness of this experience. Trust your experience, it happened and you know it, even if everything and everyone around you reject the possibility.

And then what would certainly help is to follow your heart and the next girl.
The experience seems such a waste
but please dont waste the experience

Maybe you think, it is simply ridiculous that this was not treated in childhood, and if you`d have been circumcised as a child then it wouldn`t have happened, ... but please don`t turn into a pro-circer, ... it would be equally ridiculous to circumcise a child who has nothing wrong with them, ... so how are we going to tell the difference? ... surely the point is that, as a child, you should have been checked or received some information!

What makes the experience ridiculous is that men have obviously been having similar experiences for countless generations, so why didnt they say anything? Were they all so embarrassed or maybe egoistical that they only thought of their own personal problems and penis, and just didn't care about other men and boys and the next generation?

Its not the sort of thing everyone wants to stand up in public with, but by sharing your experience either in the forum or privately in e.mail with me, I can include it in future updates (see email collection ), and so give the experience a value and hopefully help encourage a more caring initiation from our culture for future generations.
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